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10 posts tagged stereotypes
“I don’t see anything bad about being stereotyped as a Latin woman. We are yellers, we’re pretty, we’re sexy, and we’re scandalous. I am not scared of the stereotypes.”
Sofia Vergara, of Modern Family, who maybe yells a little too much. (via newsweek)
Oh look, it’s a good thing I am typing this instead of, you know, actually YELLING at Newsweak.
Here is the thing: I can understand Sofia Vergara’s words, where she is coming from. Have I “used” the Latina stereotype to my advantage ever in social situations? Yes, probably. I mean, nobody is free from the social context where interactions take place. However, no amount of “making fun of our stereotypes” is ever going to fix stuff like this (from the article):
It’s a quality that DeGeneres poked fun of recently in a behind-the-scenes video for their first Cover Girl shoot, calling Vergara’s accent “phony” and claiming “to be sick of” Vergara’s struggles with the English language.
I’ve lost track of the amount of times I’ve had to smile politely while people made fun of my accent. We will only be truly free to embrace these stereotypes when we don’t have to deal with reactions like that. Meanwhile, no, I resent the fact that Newsweak implies we should all “exploit” it to our advantage.
Don’t know if this has already been all over the place, but just in case, I’m going to leave it right here. JCPenney thinks girls are “too pretty to do homework”.
redlightpolitics replied to your post: Yes, This Happened
Oh, if I can add to your list of stereotypes based on my own background: Latin America! Femicides! Anti Abortion Catholics! More Femicides!Absolutely! For us South Asian “third worlders”, we are meek and subservient and ETERNALLY WAITING FOR WHITE MAN TO SAVE US (Thanks Mr. E. M. Forster and Jules Verne for cementing this trope), for Latin@ women it’s a *different* kind of overt sexualisation, no? Particularly that “all” Latin@ women are always up for sex, and once they are over a certain age, they can be house cleaners and nannies, no?
Correct me if I’m wrong — and I very well can be, I’m still learning.
You are totally spot on! I even have to regularly put up with these stereotypes in my daily life. When we meet someone new, my own partner is regularly asked, amid a wave of sneer and sarcastic laughter how he “manages to keep up with me”, implying that obviously the oversexualized Latina must be so difficult to deal with! And in media, it’s a trope of either salsa dancers in skimpy clothes or victims of femicide in the hands of macho culture. Add a good dose of “all those backwards Catholic countries where women will never get abortions!” and you will have the complete picture.
They always forget that Argentina was the first country in the entire American continent to legalize same sex marriage. They also never mention that the country is currently debating in congress a law (the only one of its kind in the world) that would allow the de-medicalization of trans* identities based on what they call “personal narratives” (thus, allowing trans* folks to legally change names and all documents without the need to go through an invasive medical evaluation and only basing the changes on the personal life stories of trans* folks and not on the opinions of doctors or therapists). And this is just to give two examples out of the top of my head, there are many, many more across the continent. But such matters are hardly ever spoken about in English speaking media when they address “backwards, poor and oversexualized Latin America”.
“You know how how Latinos are… they aren’t as motivated.”
Said to me, a white Latino, in New York when I was 30 years old. (via microaggressions)
The amount of times I heard jokes about this. Or if I tell someone I’ll have something ready tomorrow they give me the *wink*wink* mañana, like your people always say? Har Har!
I sincerely don’t know what’s worse: the assumption that I might be a fiery sex bomb with a temper to behold or that I am a lazy ass incapable of delivering any deadline.
Something else I realized from my post earlier today on the subject of substance abuse and women in mass media: if you are a woman of color, even though you could easily be placed in the Desperate Housewife or Lindsay Lohan stereotype, media will still tell your story from the Crack Whore narrative.
Case at hand: Whitney Houston. Her story could have easily been told from the fallen celebrity perspective (check the original post for the different ways in which these women are approached), however, the focus was on her supposed crack habit. The most grim aspects of her relationship with Bobby Brown were picked and dissected. Every photo of her from that era shows her portrayed like a street hooker, her body broken, her face distorted. She was one of the top singers of her time, but due to her addiction, all media reflected only on the sordid aspects of her health problems.
This post is part of the “Because I said so” series, which, this week is exploring the topic of Chemical Addiction.
Addiction. Chemical Addiction. Substance abuse. Dependence. All of these words are used more or less interchangeably in media. Chances are, if you pick a newspaper in any major city in the Western world, you are likely to come into, at least, one item discussing or mentioning Chemical Addiction. It’s all over the place. Either to report anti narcotics operations (DEA style) or to discuss some celebrity or crime rates in the city in question. We have become sort of immunized to the subject, in the sense that it no longer draws attention specifically. However, if you are a woman, you can expect three ways in which media will discuss your chemical addiction. Most likely, you can expect your gender to be portrayed as
Oh you say your personal narrative doesn’t fall into any of these stereotypes? Sorry, you do not exist, your story is not happening then. Because, you see, for mass media, women can only be addicted to substances in one of the three ways mentioned above. Let me try to elaborate, briefly, what each of these means.
The crack whore. This is the most socially dangerous type of addict. This is the woman who is solely responsible for the demise of good neighborhoods, the raise of crime rates, offending middle class sensibilities and just bringing in the filth with her. Her body will be portrayed as bearing the marks of dirt, of being unclean and dangerous. This woman alone will be responsible for all social ills in a given area. No mention of her personal story or, even better, the many socio economic factors that put her in this situation. The crack whore is a danger, as a matter of fact, one of the worst society can endure. Her motherhood will be regularly brought into question, only to highlight her selfish ways, how she ruined her baby’s life; tales of forced sterilization might be mentioned at this point. This is the woman that, society in general, and media in particular, deems to be beyond salvation. Coincidentally, this is also the only type that systematically portrays trans women, women of color and minorities. Because the other should be as different from us as possible.
The desperate housewife. This is the victim. As a woman, you are a poor thing with an addiction to legal substances (always, because good women do not venture into dark alleys to deal drugs). Unlike her sister in addiction the crack whore, the desperate housewife is almost always white, cis and heterosexual. Her poison will most likely be either pills or alcohol, never something as unbecoming of a housewife as heroin. Because you see, the desperate housewife is the damsel in distress. We must save her from her addiction not because she is deserving as a human being but because, quite frankly, she makes us look bad. Her body is a fracture in the system; a system that is supposed to bring contentment and joy to those involved. Especially those we need to fit into the convenient stereotypes we have assigned for them. The desperate housewife will be portrayed as a shallow, black and white character in this narrative; one that lacks depth, substance and more importantly, one who has no distinctive voice of her own. She is an addict, she is failing (the system that bred her addiction will never be discussed or questioned). She must be saved because her failure is a failure for the system itself. She has to be a mother, a productive member of society (only this kind of society) and she has to put herself together because, quite honestly, we would prefer to preserve the status quo and go back to our more important matters.
And then there is the Lindsay Lohan (previously known as the Britney Spears). Depending on country of residence, this one can also go by the name of “the Amy Winehouse”. See, the Lindsay Lohan stereotype in media is our comical relief. This is the woman at whose addiction we are supposed to point fingers and laugh. Oh, she is so insane. And her family is so messed up! And we are so lucky that we are not her. We just read her gossip items, chuckle at the insanity (bonus points if, like a popular gossip blogger, you name her Lindsanity; isn’t that quirky?) and move on, back into our serious matters as, again, productive members of society. The Lindsay Lohan is the harlot, the woman whose sexual life is the tale of shameful stories, whose addiction she brought upon herself because she was too pretty, she got too famous, too close to the top. And we love nothing more than to bring uppity women down from their pedestal, back into their rightful places at the bottom of the ladder. In a few months time, maybe in a year or two, this stereotype might be called “the Miley Cyrus” or whoever is the starlet that, again, got too big for her own good. In a not so subtle display of patriarchal affinity, her parents will be brought into question. Because the Lindsay Lohan stereotype is not an individual failure. Her failure is actually her father’s, for not keeping her on a short leash (Britney had to be saved by her father, after all).
What these stereotypes do, I contend that intentionally, is prevent identification with addiction or addicts. These women are not us, we are told. They are little dolls we put on display and their bodies, their lives are up for discussion at the dinner table. The only feelings these women elicit are either moral outrage, indignation or pity. These stereotypes also contribute to the continued veil of secrecy and shame that surrounds chemical addiction because if you suffer from an addiction and you do not fit into one of these stereotypes, you do not exist for media, your story doesn’t get told and, in turn, no people like you are in the public eye to show that addiction is normal, and that it can happen to anyone.
Breaking News: perfume induces ecstasy, orgasmic faces
Someone at this Hairpin comment thread (about the gallery of Women laughing while eating salads alone), suggested a similar search of stock photos for “Women Applying Perfume”. Results of Getty Images here (screen cap above) and Google Images here.
Also, posted by another commenter in the same thread, apparently, shopping makes black women very, very happy. Laughing a lot kinda happy.
Incidentally, the Boycott American Women troll makes a guest appearance in the comment thread. I guess he doesn’t like salad eating women?
Mental Disorders Illustrated Using Winnie The Pooh Characters
This is the part where you can call me a humorless feminazi because most of them are not even remotely funny to me. Perhaps this one is the only exception I found in the series.
Feminist postcard art auction
via The Guardian, a collection of 38 “Feminist Postcards” to go on auction at Aubin Gallery.
I must admit I had a very visceral angry reaction when I saw this “Feminist” postcard. I then went on to read about who’s behind it and found out it is the work of artist David Rusbatch and it is, supposedly, a commentary about the (again, supposed) pornification of contemporary pop culture.
Two issues in this “work of art” bother me terribly. On the one hand, the woman depicted as the Feminist icon in the triptych is no other than Germaine Greer, an Australian academic whose work has been seminal to anarcho feminism and to gender related studies. A woman deserving of respect for having challenged many notions of, not only feminism but also the relationship of women with capitalist ideologies and the related forms of oppression. That the “Feminist” icon chosen is depicted as angry and far from accepted notions of “contemporary beauty” pisses me off. Particularly because there were a myriad flattering photos of Ms. Greer the artist could have chosen from. Instead, he gives us the tired, old stereotype of the angry feminist. Want to see what a breathtakingly beautiful woman Greer is? Take a look here (NSFW). My point is not “OMG a beautiful woman was portrayed as “ugly”” because, really, fuck the notion that women have to adhere to beauty standards in the first place. No, my point is that she is purposefully portrayed in a negative manner (angry/ rabid/ unfriendly).
The other anger trigger for the card was the “post feminist” depiction. Because, really, we live in such a sex positive world that a pornographic image is “post”. There is no way that a woman would freely choose to enjoy this as an act of feminist choice. AM I RITE, GUYS, AM I RIGHT?! There is no one, not one woman who would become a sex worker (in porn or not) because she finds it worthy of her efforts. And that such woman will face stigmatization, ignorance, maybe isolation, etc, that makes it “post feminist”, exactly how?
I know some might object to my simplistic analysis claiming it is “art”, and it is supposed to cause an emotional reaction, and it is supposed to challenge, etc. Well, no. I am well aware of that. However, this is the part that annoys me: that this art is part of a “Feminist” collection. If it was not part of such auction, if it was just a piece of work that stands on its own, then I would not think twice about it. I would just regard it as yet another piece of “hipster art” (you know, ironic, “provocative”, etc.) and leave it alone. However, because the auction is supposed to speak on my behalf, is that I consider this insulting.
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