You know what, though? Saying these things is not helpful; in fact, it’s not even helping to humanize the victim. What you are actually doing is perpetuating rape culture by advancing the idea that a woman is only valuable in so much as she is loved or valued by a man.
This is a great piece, written by Anne Thériault on the often used trope of “wife, sister or daughter” when talking about rape. You should read it at the link.